Your hope, faith, and trust in your relationship is shattered.
You’ve tiptoed around this issue for a while now. Maybe it’s horrible communication. Maybe it’s that somebody has been having an affair, or is addicted to porn. Whatever the case, this is the last straw, and you’re not sure what to do.
Before you throw in the towel, you want to try to see if there’s anything left to save.
It feels like life is falling apart, and this marriage is being held together by hope (and maybe the fact that it’s kind of expensive to get a divorce). You don’t want it to be over, but without some intervention, this marriage is finished. We can help.
We work with couples who feel like their relationship feels like it’s on the brink of disaster, and we have the experience to help you get things back on the right track. We can’t promise that everything will be okay, but we can assure you that we’re going to work together to help restore what was once there.
What to Expect
Honestly, if you’re feeling nervous about sharing your deepest, darkest secrets with a stranger you’re not alone. And if the thought of talking to somebody about all the ways you and your spouse are struggling makes you anxious, you’re in good company.
First and foremost, our offices are a safe space where you’re welcome to share anything that’s on your heart. It’s a place where people have talked about the good, the bad, and the ugly. When you come here, no matter what you’ve done, no matter what you say, you’re not judged and you’re not condemned. We all make mistakes. We’ve all done things we’re not proud of. And there are things we all wish we could take back. While you can’t change the past, you can come in confident that whatever you share and whatever you say stays between you, your spouse, and your therapist. And no matter what you reveal – you’re in a safe place to share your heart.
In counseling, we’ll walk through the struggles you’re facing and look to see what brought you there. We’re not so much interested in beating you over the head with the mistakes you or your spouse have made, but rather, where you can go from here. We’ll look at what God says about relationships and how He calls us to live in our marriages. You’ll have the opportunity to learn about your needs – how to put them into words – and your strengths and weaknesses. This approach toward marriage counseling helps to empower you and your spouse to love and accept each other – giving you the ability to truly connect with each other’s heart.
What You’ll Learn
Throughout the process, you and your spouse will be able to learn to trust again. You’ll have the opportunity to work together to figure out what the goals of your relationship really are. You’ll get to learn how to have real conversations, set boundaries and pick up the pieces. You’ll get to use your new communication tools when hard times come. You’ll also learn how to have forward thinking, so you can work together to turn disagreements into agreements.
What you’ll get from Couples Therapy at Revive Wellness:
- You’ll be able to communicate effectively, without every difficult conversation turning into an argument.
- You won’t have to feel like you need to avoid those difficult topics just to keep the peace.
- You’ll learn to really enjoy being around your spouse again.
- You’ll be able to reconnect and find peace and joy in your relationship.
- Your relationship with God will improve.
What the process looks like:
Counseling and therapy is meant to help you get your life back and to stop the negative cycle your relationship is stuck in. Together, you and your therapist will work to reduce the fights, arguments and disagreements in your relationship.
The process usually begins with weekly appointments that are usually around 45-50 minutes. Therapy is best done with at least a six-week commitment. We find that folks who can’t commit to at least six weeks and meet less than weekly tend to have more difficulty, and the process isn’t as effective. After six weekly sessions, you and your therapist can discuss your treatment goals, and determine if you should continue weekly, move to bi-weekly appointments, or determine if ending therapy is the next step.
It’s always beneficial when both spouses can commit to the counseling process, but that isn’t always possible. Sometimes it’s a scheduling issue, an issue of work, or because the other person believes he or she doesn’t need to come to counseling. But a lot people can benefit from coming to marriage counseling, even if their spouse doesn’t join them. Don’t let the other person’s inability or refusal to come hold you back.
Let’s work together
The following providers offer Counseling for Couples in Crisis at Revive Wellness: