You just found out they cheated. And now you’re not sure what to do.

You feel devastated. And lost. And in disbelief. Now, you’re trying to figure out what you’re next steps.

So, you just found out they cheated. You’re probably asking yourself several questions, like “How could this happen?” and “What am I going to do about it?”

It’s easy to think, “But we’re Christians! How could this be happening to us?”. The sad reality is that statistics show the rate of extramarital affairs in Christian relationships are just as high as they are in relationships between non-believers.

Your Options

Before you start Googling a bunch of self-help articles, or listen to people who are self-proclaimed “experts” on how you should handle your situation, there are a couple things you should know: 1) Only you can decide what you’re going to do. 2) You don’t have to have all the answers figured out right now. If you’re here, chances are you’re looking for something that can help you make your decision and get your thoughts together. That’s completely understandable. Before you go any farther though, you should realize a few things about yourself:

  • You are worthy of being loved.
  • You have value.
  • You were created with a specific purpose.

When your spouse has an affair, it’s hard to believe these three things. We feel cheated, damaged, and broken. Of course we don’t feel loved. We feel worthless. And we feel like nothing really matters anymore. And usually, all these feelings come crashing down on us all at once. So, if nobody else tells you through this whole situation – You are loved. You are valued. And you still have a purpose.

Where to Start

Since you’re already here, you probably know the answer. It’s time to get some help. We see a lot of people and couples who are going through exactly what you’re going through. Unfortunately, your experience is pretty common. The good thing is that since we’ve seen a lot of people coming to counseling for affairs, we know what you’re experiencing and where we need to go next. Your first step is figuring out where your spouse’s head is at.  Is he or she sorry, and repentant for what’s happened? If so, great.  Make an appointment, and we’ll get you both in for an appointment pronto. We’ll figure out what went wrong, and more importantly what got you there. Recovering from something like this isn’t easy – but if you’re both willing to put in the work, you’ll discover a lot of amazing changes in your relationship thanks to counseling. If your husband or wife isn’t repentant and they don’t seem like they want to move past the issue, you still have a responsibility to yourself, and you should still seek some help to work through what you’re experiencing.

Maybe we can just get past this ourselves.

You’re right, maybe you can. But chances are you probably won’t. We don’t say that to be negative or because we doubt your strength, but even when couples have moved past infidelity in their relationship, there’s always some lingering bitterness, unforgiveness, jealousy, anger, and a lot of other emotions. With those emotions present, you’re never really going to get past it. It’s always going to be there in the back of your mind and it’s going to affect every decision you make.  Every. Single. Decision. Why chance it?

You can be happy again.

But it’s completely up to you.  We’ll give you the tools to work through the process and you’ll have the opportunity to grow in your relationship with God. It’s not just about getting over what happened, but about learning to lean on Him even more.  You’ll have the chance to learn about your true identity, how He created you to be, and what you can do with it.

While You’re Recovering from an Affair:

While you’re recovering, you and your spouse will be going through a lot of changes. Some moments might be tense, others might be sad, and some will be life-changing and life-giving. If you’re truly committed to the process, you’ll learn new ways to communicate with your spouse and you can become closer than you ever were. There’ll still be times when you may fight and argue, or you may start to wonder if you’ve made the right choice, but by the end of the process you’ll look back and be amazed at how far you’ve come.

Coming Together

It’s always beneficial when both spouses can commit to the counseling process, but that isn’t always possible.  Sometimes it’s a scheduling issue, an issue of work, or because the other person believes he or she doesn’t need to come to counseling. But a lot people can benefit from coming to marriage counseling, even if their spouse doesn’t join them. Don’t let the other person’s inability or refusal to come hold you back.

LET’S WORK TOGETHER

The following providers offer Counseling for Infidelity at Revive Wellness:

Kansas Corley

Kansas Corley

Pastoral Care Director
Owensboro | Hartford | Online
270.926.6957 ext. 106
kcorley@revivewellness.group

Out of Network with Insurance
Private Pay Rate Per Session: $85

Dr. Zakk Gammon

Dr. Zakk Gammon

Executive Director
Owensboro | Online
270.926.6957 ext. 103
zgammon@revivewellness.group

Out of Network with Insurance
Private Pay Rate Per Session: $105

Jeff Harris

Jeff Harris

Clinical Director
Online
270.926.6957 ext. 104
jharris@revivewellness.group

In-Network with Insurance
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Private Pay Rate Per Session: $85

Justin Walker

Justin Walker

Pastoral Counselor
Owensboro | Lewisport | Online
270.926.6957 ext. 109
jwalker@revivewellness.group

Out of Network with Insurance
Private Pay Rate Per Session: $85

Sheena Barfield

Sheena Barfield

Associate Counselor
Owensboro | Hartford | Online
270.926.6957 ext. 112
sbarfield@revivewellness.group

Out of Network with Insurance
Private Pay Rate Per Session: $40

Brittany Evans

Brittany Evans

Associate Counselor
Owensboro | Online
270.926.6957 ext. 111
bevans@revivewellness.group

Out of Network with Insurance
Private Pay Rate Per Session: $40