You’re looking to make your relationship the best it can be.
What marriage should be is a place where we each become better as we grow with our spouse and create a loving, fun, happy, unbreakable union. But what marriage really is can be vastly different depending on your situation. What it shouldn’t be is a toxic, hurtful environment where you aren’t sure if you can trust the other person or whether or not your marriage is worth it.
Marriage is a blessing from God, and a Christ-centered marriage is a place where we can all become better. A married couple goes through a lot of phases and seasons in life together. Some of them, many of them, are amazing and can be full of building great memories.
Perhaps you’ve been together for a while and it feels like you’ve grown apart, and you just don’t have that “spark” anymore.
How to get it back:
The strength of any relationship is reflected in how well the couple connects to each other. How well are you connected to your spouse? If you’re here because your partner had an affair, or if you feel like the relationship is falling apart, chances are you’re not connected very well at all.
What is the number one goal of your marriage? If it’s taking care of the kids, or making sure you work hard enough to get the house, car, or life you want, you’re doing it wrong. If your number one goal is anything except connectingwith your spouse, you may find your marriage full of heartache, anger and bitterness.
If you want to get your marriage back to where it should be (or take it to where it should have been in the first place), you have to learn to connect with your spouse.
No matter your situation, there is hope.
The beauty of marriage is that you can reconnect, even if you’re not sure how. At Revive Wellness, we believe love deserves a chance, and if you’re reading this, chances are you do too. Honestly though, it’s not an easy process. When your marriage is off the rails, it takes hard work to get it to where you need it to be. People who are willing to put the work in, to learn to communicate and forgive and truly listen to the heart of their spouse find a lot of success and long-lasting marriages.
How to know when it’s time for marriage counseling:
We get asked a lot, “How do I know when it’s time to go to counseling? Is this something we can just work out, or do we need help?” Ask yourself if any of these situations relate to you:
- You don’t feel heard
- You can’t find a compromise
- You can’t imagine your future together
- You feel stuck
- You have the same fight over and over
- You don’t feel supported
- You don’t trust them
- You can’t make decisions together
As you’re reading these situations, and you think “Yep, that’s me,” that’s a pretty good indication it’s time to take a serious look at marriage counseling. Remember, it’s not a bad thing to ask for help. It shows you’re willing to take a step to make things better. It’s an investment in your future.
What to expect:
Honestly, if you’re feeling nervous about sharing your deepest, darkest secrets with a stranger you’re not alone. And if the thought of talking to somebody about all the ways you and your spouse are struggling makes you anxious, you’re in good company.
First and foremost, our offices are a safe space where you’re welcome to share anything that’s on your heart. It’s a place where people have talked about the good, the bad, and the ugly. When you come here, no matter what you’ve done, no matter what you say, you’re not judged and you’re not condemned. We all make mistakes. We’ve all done things we’re not proud of. And there are things we all wish we could take back. While you can’t change the past, you can come in confident that whatever you share and whatever you say stays between you, your spouse, and your therapist. And no matter what you reveal – you’re in a safe place to share your heart.
In counseling, we’ll walk through the struggles you’re facing and look to see what brought you there. We’re not so much interested in beating you over the head with the mistakes you or your spouse have made, but rather, where you can go from here. We’ll look at what God says about relationships and how He calls us to live in our marriages. You’ll have the opportunity to learn about your needs – how to put them into words – and your strengths and weaknesses. This approach toward marriage counseling helps to empower you and your spouse to love and accept each other – giving you the ability to truly connect with each other’s heart.
What you’ll learn:
Throughout the process, you and your spouse will be able to learn to trust again. You’ll have the opportunity to work together to figure out what the goals of your relationship really are. You’ll get to learn how to have real conversations, set boundaries and pick up the pieces. You’ll get to use your new communication tools when hard times come. You’ll also learn how to have forward thinking, so you can work together to turn disagreements into agreements.
What you’ll get from Couples Therapy at Revive Wellness:
- You’ll be able to communicate effectively, without every difficult conversation turning into an argument.
- You won’t have to feel like you need to avoid those difficult topics just to keep the peace.
- You’ll learn to really enjoy being around your spouse again.
- You’ll be able to reconnect and find peace and joy in your relationship.
- Your relationship with God will improve.
What the process looks like:
Counseling and therapy is meant to help you get your life back and to stop the negative cycle your relationship is stuck in. Together, you and your therapist will work to reduce the fights, arguments and disagreements in your relationship.
The process usually begins with weekly appointments that are usually around 45-50 minutes. Therapy is best done with at least a six-week commitment. We find that folks who can’t commit to at least six weeks and meet less than weekly tend to have more difficulty, and the process isn’t as effective. After six weekly sessions, you and your therapist can discuss your treatment goals, and determine if you should continue weekly, move to bi-weekly appointments, or determine if ending therapy is the next step.
It’s always beneficial when both spouses can commit to the counseling process, but that isn’t always possible. Sometimes it’s a scheduling issue, an issue of work, or because the other person believes he or she doesn’t need to come to counseling. But a lot people can benefit from coming to marriage counseling, even if their spouse doesn’t join them. Don’t let the other person’s inability or refusal to come hold you back.
Providers who offer Communication Counseling:
Kansas Corley, LCC, CTC
Owensboro | Hartford | Online
270.926.6957 ext. 106
Kansas Corley is a Licensed Pastoral Counselor and Certified Temperament Counselor serving clients in Owensboro, Hartford and Online.
Out of Network with Insurance
Rate:$85 per session
Jeff Harris, LPCC, LCADC, CTC
Owensboro | Online
270.926.6957 ext. 104
Jeff Harris is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Licensed Clinical Alcohol and Drug Counselor and Certified Temperament Counselor serving clients in Owensboro and Online
In-Network with Insurance
Accepted Insurance Plans
Justin Walker, LCC, CTC
Owensboro | Lewisport | Online
270.926.6957 ext. 109
Justin Walker is a Licensed Pastoral Counselor and Certified Temperament Counselor serving clients in Owensboro, Lewisport, and Online.
Out of Network with Insurance
Rate:$85 per session